Chemistry + Instinct.

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." Carl Jung.

And so we talk about Chemistry in relationships most of the time. I do not disagree, in fact, I most certainly agree. It’s a feeling that cannot possibly be described by the words desire, adoration, fondness or even love. Love is too general, too big and at the same time, too small for us to carry. We can’t possibly understand it’s development, and we can possibly never trace it’s history.

I suppose, it will be some time before we actually understand the difference between animal instincts and human emotion. If humans are capable of falling in love, then so do animals. Don’t they? It is an universal emotion. An example is how elephants mourn for their dead, or a Lioness’ attraction to darker mane males. Well, Love is an instinct isn’t it?
Animal Instinct.

If time was a factor, then when 2 people have been together or known each other long enough, a relationship between them would then work out. But the thing is, the amount of time together isn’t a factor at all, Sodium Chloride is Sodium Chloride and Sugar is Sugar. These 2 chemicals can be mixed to look like they are of the same substance, but chemically, it just doesn’t blend no matter how much time u leave it together.

Recently, I had friends who have had long term relationships ended. The contracts just ran out in – 10years, 5 years, 4.5 years, 4 years. In the past, I used to feel that once you get past 3 years, it would most likely be stable enough to last a life time. How ignorant.

I believe that when they all started, they believed that there was chemistry, that ‘The One’ had arrived. But most of these relationships ended, because according to the natural laws of Society, 1 + 1 = 2, which is good. 2 + 1 = 3, which is not so good.

Having been in years of relationship (of coz my relationships so far had been periodically spread out), I have noticed the importance of chemical compositions. But, the truth of it is, there is no ion particle detection devices that can tell us how suitable 2 people are for each other. It’s really a big risk each time we step into each new relationship. Animal Instinct + Chemical Explosion = Good Stuff.

How long it lasts, well, it all is down to whether the byproduct of the reaction is more important, or the sparks that come right after it that’s more vital. Sometimes, it’s just worth the wait, and it’s very much a blessing, should the right mix find your way.

Individualized Democracy.

It has come to my attention that there is a mood intended for the deliriously wondering mind which has too many options on had, till it receives no compromise for the road it will choose to take.

No vocabulary in the English language to describe the kind of feeling for this - directionless, yet purposeful. Options may not exactly be a good thing and within our little cramped minds, we call for an election and we fight it out, this process of decision making, I call – Individualized Democracy (ID).

Choices are made every single $%#&ing day for as long as we are breathing, though I am quite certain some people breathe longer than others.

Some decisions just take longer to settle in, just like the way we decide on which answer to shade in an all important life altering exam that we have to take, which we are absolutely not so prepared for. Some answers come more easily than others, but the blindness of our emotions sometimes just eclipses the very choice we know is right.

Individualized Democracy allows us this luxury to vote for a decision, unless, it is out rightly indisputable (like how Liverpool is gonna win the Premier League from the clutches of Chelski).

How soon or how right we perceive a decision is to be made, all depends on the election policy we adopt. Take for example, to eat Chocolate with Nutz and Raisins, or a healthy Muesli Bar? An election policy where all the votes from all places are collated and counted, and the result will thus have made its choice.

Counting the votes as such takes a little more time. In my case, the votes’ mostly anonymous – Chocolate with Nutz and Raisins. Just take it that the general population of my body isn’t so concerned with health issues. Other policy demands would make sure only the brain votes.

So, as we become more confident about certain issues, our decision process speeds up. But there is something we should all understand, that whatever decision we have made, will have it’s cause, effect and consequences.

In all circumstances, let’s slow down the pace a little, and allow our inner-self time to vote with more patience and hopefully, with a little more wisdom.
Else it may well turn out to be Individualized Communism.

Observance.

No one noticed what I did,
Till I did not do it.

Walk with me...

I’ve always imagined that success would come in many different forms. What measures success is really a question that would generate answers from different perspectives. The thing is, society’s education and expectation on a person’s success is very much material.

In which case, hard work which results in financial power may necessarily proof to be too great a price to have paid or too little accomplished. In the big and broader map of chasing the dream, we may well have forgotten what’s really important and what really matters.

Could humanity understand the need that there is no need for money to survive? That we are all a part of nature and not apart from it? That ultimately, what we are doing is really driving ourselves to extinction? Could we actually comprehend all these?

The larger picture can never be painted small enough for all to see.

I feel that human existence is only but temporary. There is so much dishonesty and meaningless struggle, that there seems to be really nothing much to look forward to in life. We may appear to show a cultivated culture, decent knowledge of science and medicine, and an understanding of social behaviour.

But I don’t think there would have been any difference in the way people understood life centuries ago, or their understanding of joy and happiness, for what it may have been, ours may be one of a degenerated form.

Everyday is an endurance race, everyday makes you want to search for something outside our levels of linear understanding.

There comes a point where we have to decide what’s important to us. But, most of us probably can’t really name priorities, not even until we age or become sane enough to do so and most of us would still be thinking of what should have been, the what ifs and the maybes. Doesn’t it make living so much more interesting?

A destination spoils the fun of the journey, but traveling in eternity may not be ideal. There must be some force tells us when to move on or when to stop.

So, I could be certain that there is the need for necessary evil, the need to supplement our understanding of happiness with a negated emotion. Not surprisingly, the real struggle lies within our own body and soul – our internal fight, eternally fought to allow us to choose, to respond, to function.

Our material ambition is but an ordinary sound that echoes with our every struggle. Our Will, our Compassion, our Optimism, is what makes this struggle more than just survival; it gives us a fresh start everyday, a new beginning every sunrise.